Many times, a future hubby will want to pop the question to his girlfriend in public. Be it at a mall, a restaurant, a basketball game, or even in the middle of a museum, there is a certain charm and allure to being proposed to in public.
That is, if you’re the kind of person that enjoys that kind of proposal.
There has been an increasing amount of pressure on grooms-to-be to propose to their girlfriends in public, but that isn’t always a good thing. Yes, it can be romantic, and yes, it will allow your girlfriend to revel in the fact that the entire world is applauding that special happy moment with her, but sometimes, a low-key proposal may be a better option. Here are three scenarios in which a private proposal is a better option.
Scenario #1: You, Your Girlfriend, or Both of You Are Shy
It just doesn’t make much sense to force yourself into the spotlight if you are very shy. Popping the question is already stressful, and it’s a smart idea for naturally shy people to make sure that it is as easy as possible to ask. If you feel like you would do well in a private setting, simply because you aren’t the type to enjoy declaring your love in front of complete strangers, don’t feel bad about it. In many cases, a private proposal is the best kind of proposal there is.
Scenario #2: You Aren’t Really Sure If She’ll Say Yes
9 times out of 10, men are pretty sure that their future fiancee will say yes to the idea of getting married. But 1 out of those every 10 times, you might not be so sure. Maybe it’s because you have only been dating for a short amount of time, or maybe it’s because you had a recent squabble with your lady love, but whatever the reason is, you might be feeling a bit shaky about her saying “Yes!” This is normal, to a point.
However, if you are really getting the feeling that it might not go over well, do not propose in public. This will only mean that you will also have to face more embarrassment should she say “no.”
Scenario #3: It Involves TV, A Basketball Game, Or Something Along Those Lines
As a general rule, women will love the way that you propose no matter how it is done. However, there are some methods of proposing that are generally viewed as tacky, over the top, or just a plain bad choice. Before you decide to pop the question at a basketball game, on live TV, or by having cheerleaders chant out the question before your future wife, it may be a good idea to step back and look at the plan. Maybe, just maybe, toning it own by having an over-the-top but private proposal would be a better choice.
Basically, if you don’t know whether or not a public proposal is a good idea, ask yourself about whether or not it really fits your personalities. The answer you come up with may just surprise you.