{"id":2653,"date":"2020-05-07T17:14:22","date_gmt":"2020-05-07T17:14:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.brillianteers.com\/p\/?p=2653"},"modified":"2020-10-15T15:02:00","modified_gmt":"2020-10-15T15:02:00","slug":"i-dont-like-my-engagement-ring-what-to-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.brillianteers.com\/blog\/i-dont-like-my-engagement-ring-what-to-do\/","title":{"rendered":"I Don’t Like My Engagement Ring! What to Do?"},"content":{"rendered":"

The biggest surprise of your life has finally happened. You’re at an absolute blissful romantic high as your partner had just asked for your hand in marriage. It was everything you wanted it to be, and nothing like you’ve ever imagined. As perfect as everything may feel, in many cases, the ring isn’t. Unfortunately, your partner doesn’t always get it right. You’ll be surprised just how often people get the actual engagement ring wrong. It doesn’t make you a bad person to immediately think that “I don’t like my engagement ring”. There are a few ways around this awkward situation without it becoming anything negative or something that might trigger conflict. Here’s a quick guide on what you need to do if you don’t like your engagement ring.<\/p>\n

What to Do if “I Don’t Like My Engagement Ring”<\/h2>\n

Before you start to panic or let yourself feel bad for ever thinking that “I don’t like my engagement ring”, it’s time to stop. You need to relax and not worry too much. This happens a lot. It happens so often that it’s one big reason why we have a 30-day return and exchange policy<\/a> at Brillianteers. Here are the steps you need to take if you are having second thoughts about your engagement ring.<\/p>\n

Ask Your Partner Why They Chose This Design<\/h3>\n

As you worry that “I don’t like my engagement ring”, you need to first consider your what’s behind your partner’s decision to give you this specific ring. Ask your partner exactly what their reason is for choosing this design. If it’s simply because they think you’d like it, then it’s okay to ask them if you can have it changed.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, it is possible that the ring they have given you has been passed down through their family, or given to them by their parents. There may be a significant and powerful reason behind why this is the ring they gave you, and you wouldn’t want to offend them by telling them that you don’t like the way it looks, when, for them, it’s not about the design, but rather, what the design means to them.<\/p>\n

Give it Time Before Telling Your Partner<\/h3>\n

You might find that your heart was just completely set on a specific design, so much so that you are unable to see just how beautiful the ring you were given is.\u00a0Before you make any rash decisions after acknowledging that “I don’t like my engagement ring”, you first need to give your engagement ring some time.<\/p>\n

It’s important to give yourself a few days to really contemplate on whether or not you like your engagement ring. You never know, you might just change your mind and completely fall in love with the design. You may even realize that you prefer this design over everything else. Giving yourself the time to think things over before telling your partner that you don’t like your engagement ring, will guarantee that you have whole-heartedly decided on having it changed before you begin to talk about such a sensitive subject.<\/p>\n

Tell Your Partner and<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>Ask Permission Before Doing Anything<\/span><\/h3>\n

There’s no harm in telling your partner about how you feel. If anything, they’ll want you to tell them. If this is a newly bought ring, your partner may have struggled a little to find a design that they think you would like, without actually knowing what you want. Be honest with how you feel and tell them why this is important to you. At the end of the day, your partner will want you to be happy with their gift. By telling your partner how you feel, you can go ahead and ask for their permission if you can find an alternative ring design that you’d prefer to have.<\/p>\n

How to Change Your Engagement Ring<\/h2>\n

If your partner is 100% comfortable with your plans to have your engagement ring changed, there are a few ways for you to go about this.<\/p>\n

Ask Your Jeweler if They Have an Exchange Policy<\/h3>\n

The first thing you can do is to go ahead and ask the jeweler your partner bought the ring from if you have an option to change the design. Most jewelers have a time limit for a return and exchange policy. Ask your partner where they purchased the ring, and learn of the shop’s exchange policy.<\/p>\n

If there is an exchange policy that you can work with, it’ll be easy for you to go through their inventory of ring designs and choose one that you are happy with. This is a good opportunity for you and your partner to work together to decide what design you’d both love. It could even become somewhat romantic as you look through their collection of designs.<\/p>\n

Have Your Ring Customized<\/h3>\n

If you find out that there isn’t an exchange policy that can help you, you can choose to have your ring customized instead. You don’t have to buy an entirely new ring to have a different design. You can simply have your ring customized if you strongly feel that “I don’t like my engagement ring”.<\/p>\n

When you have a custom-made design, you can ask the jeweler to use the materials from the ring you already have, and create a design that you wanted. This means that you only have to pay for the labor of the service, rather than buying an entirely new ring or new materials. This can also be a great opportunity for you and your partner to build a design that you both would love, together.<\/p>\n

If you do decide on having your ring customized, you should guarantee that you hire the right experts for the job. You wouldn’t want to spend money on having your ring customized and end up with something that is worse than what you already had. You have to guarantee that the jewelers you are hiring for the job are skilled and experienced to create something beautiful out of what you have. This is a delicate design job that needs expertise. Ask the jeweler for samples of the work they have done in the past, and decide for yourself if you are happy with the quality of work they provide.<\/p>\n

Sell Your Ring and Buy a New One<\/h3>\n

If you don’t have the option to have a ring customized, you can always go ahead and sell the ring and buy a completely new one. This option may take longer, but it’s still a good option if you want a specific design for your engagement ring. Just make it a point that you involve your partner in the process. You should avoid doing this behind their back as it may upset them. Make this a good bonding opportunity where you can choose a ring together.<\/p>\n

Final Thoughts<\/h2>\n

You don’t have to worry about the idea that “I don’t like my engagement ring”. This happens to more brides-to-be than you think. It just so happens that no one would really want to talk about this or mention it. There’s a way around this scenario without anyone (your partner) ever feeling hurt or disappointed. At the end of the day, every relationship will have to face tough decisions and conversations. If anything, this is a wonderful learning experience for both of you. Make this a fun experience to bond and be there for one another. You’ll have so much more to look forward to beyond your engagement ring blues.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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